Dating people in recovery
“I’ve been with my current boyfriend for a year now,” she says. He’s not an alcoholic, and drinks now and then, but is totally supportive of my sobriety and rarely keeps alcohol in the house.” Dr.Schiavo’s most important dating tip for those in recovery is to: “Take it very, very slow.Ultimately, it’s important to keep in mind the fact that getting sober doesn’t happen all at once.Like a lot of things, learning how to date and discovering what’s appropriate and what’s not takes following other people’s rules until you’re well enough to figure out your own.If I had a Higher Power, it was helping other people and getting out of my head and out of this “me” mentality—the selfishness that you have when you’re a using alcoholic.I think it’s no coincidence I met my wife while I was volunteering, had no time for myself, and dating was the last thing on my mind.” Patti, a 27-year-old from New York with four years of sobriety in NA, says that after getting sober, she found it hard not to be drawn to the same kind of train wreck relationships of her using years.In addition, they incorporate full psychiatric assessment and treatment of medical conditions related to substance use.This Arizona rehab prescribes high doses of AA meetings and backpacking for young guys who not only need to get sober, but also learn the basics (think cooking and cleaning) of living in the real world.
Did that mean he immediately dated “appropriately” and “healthily”? “I spent five years dating messed up speed freaks and growing pot for a living.
Date like it's 1955, whether it's with someone new, or with your current partner or spouse.
Go to the movies, take a walk in the park, go skiing together, but slow down and give the intimacy a chance to develop.
If you’re looking for a relationship, Sarah says, don’t have sex until the person you’re dating has made a clear commitment to you, and you’ve established you’re on the same page. In other words, if your partner is saying, “I don’t want a relationship,” listen and if that’s not the answer you want, look for someone else rather than considering the words a challenge that must be taken up.
Also, talk over your feelings with your sponsor, and utilize step 10 inventories for complex emotions.