Dating site red flags
This person doesn't really see you as —you're a projection of some perfect idea they have in their head, and anytime you shatter those expectations by being a normal, flawed, breathing human being, they're impossible to console.
Oh yeah, and someone being that obsessed with you is CREEPY.
Some people simply don't like splashing their personal life onto social media or even talking much about their feelings with friends, but that's different from flat-out hiding your partnership, which is about as glaringly red as a flag can get!
We are all insecure on some level, and it's nobody's fault for feeling that way, but no reassurance from a partner will ever be enough, because those issues live inside the person feeling them.
The Worst People On The Planet are those who gleefully gaslight their partners (read: twisting the truth to make you doubt your sanity, memory or reality.) Other gross tactics include regularly mocking your ideas or refusing to take your opinion seriously because they're so convinced they can change your mind anyway that they assume they can just skip the whole "valuing your perspective" stuff.
Anybody who doesn't respect how vulnerable sex makes people feel or who shames their partner over run-of-the-mill awkward naked moments (ahem, like embarrassing sounds and physical mishaps) is nobody worth doing the deed with.
Do they continue to touch you in seemingly innocent ways (like hugs, shoulder rubs or even repeatedly poking you in the arm like a sibling) when you ask for personal space?
This might be a sign they don't respect your right to your own body and could try to push those boundaries to much more dangerous limits in the future.
Heck, maybe one of you wants an open relationship and the other will never be okay with that idea.We all move on different personal timelines, after all.Better yet, is this person working hard every day to build the kind of life they actually want for themselves if they don't like their current reality? Everyone struggles with their folks sometimes (show me someone who blindly worships Mom and Dad as a grown adult and I'll show you a liar), but keep your eye open for partners who have a fundamental lack of respect for their parents.When one partner is constantly initiating sex and the other isn't in the mood very often, you're in for a world of crushed egos, hurt feelings, emotional pressure, and resentment from both sides.Does your new bae refuse to stop tickling you when you tell them to knock it off?