Not so serious dating

Bcos me doesn’t know, I curiously asked a lady once, “ma, since you boldy state in your profile you are married, why are you here na”…she change am for me o…

Your friends and family have warned you that he’s a player, or a loser, or a (enter your favorite derogatory term for a bad boyfriend here) but you’ve written them off, believing that you’re going to be the one woman that can change him into the perfect partner. Find what makes you happy before you’re in a relationship, then find someone to share that happiness with. What this really means is that they’re looking for dysfunction so that they have the drama in their lives that they subconsciously crave.

And then you’ll be in good emotional shape to start attracting the kind of man that you want to be in a relationship with, and he’ll want to be in a relationship with you too.

Following are a few suggestions about how to slow things down and keep your new relationship on a healthy track. if you have sex early in the relationship, you’re sharing the most intimate behavior you can possibly share with someone you hardly know.

On the other hand, if you show loyalty and nurture them properly, your friends and family will usually be there for you. If it’s Christmas (or New Year’s Eve, or Valentine’s Day, or the anniversary of your last breakup, or . The odds of any one relationship working out long-term are low, so chances are, this one won’t work either.

When you’re realistic in your expectations, you’re not hurt and shocked if your date does a 180-degree turn.

These problems should be left to the trained professionals. Otherwise, you’ll either attract a partner that has the savior complex (see above) or you’ll attract a partner with the same issues. I realize that in order to meet men you need to get out there and be sociable, whether “out there” means the local ski club or the local web scene and I’m all for that. But if you’re not actively pursuing your own interests at the same time, then there’s a problem.

People get caught up in the passion and wanting to please. Because your partner hasn’t had time to get to know or care about you, he or she may neglect to inform you about a sexually transmitted disease (STD), fail to take appropriate pregnancy and STD precautions, and/or even disappear after the act.

If you’ve been seeing one another once a week, suddenly spending the weekend together can be too much, too soon. Instead, have dates that gradually increase in length and frequency.

And as much as misery loves company, misery plus misery doubles the misery. If you’re thinking to yourself right now, “The only thing I’m interested in is meeting a man,” then you’re in the deep.

As I’ve said before, the best way to meet the right Mr.

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