Online dating recovering alcoholics
Sometimes Love Just Ain’t Enough Just as important as assessing the recovering addict’s status is understanding your own. Does addiction strike a nerve with you, perhaps because there’s an addict in your family?
Although research has refuted outdated assumptions about addiction, surveys have shown that people judge addicts (even recovering ones) more harshly than people struggling with obesity, depression and even schizophrenia.
The thing with me and my past partner two years ago now was that he would make all these promises, assure me he would take his medication and get help and do better, but I never saw him making a genuine effort to get clean, at least while we were together. He now said he cannot date me as its part of his recovery program and I am on medication. I was honest about my past and shared I would have 9 years of recovery in January.
If he had even gone to al anon meetings and tried hard with their programme, I would have stayed with him. We had only been on four casual dates so I had not shared the exact details of my past because they are painful and personal.
After dating one dud after another, you finally find someone who seems to have it all – thoughtful, witty, responsible – and good-looking to boot.
If you move forward with the relationship, be aware of a few unique aspects of dating someone in recovery.I've seen more relationships fail, in the rooms, than succeed.But that doesn't mean it can't work-- as long as the partner has a good sense of self. I met someone who was addicted to marijuana and hashish, and also alcohol.Recovering addicts don’t expect perfection in their partners, having learned firsthand that it doesn’t exist.And they have committed – in recovery and in life – to honesty and integrity and making decisions in accordance with their values.